I’m right there with you.
I know what it’s like to be stuck in a rut, questioning where you’ve been, where you’re going, what you’re meant to do in life…the list goes on. I’ve heard the “it’s going to get better”s and the “timing is everything”s countless times (all well intentioned, of course). The truth is, sometimes that just isn’t enough to ease an anxious mind.
Growing up, there was never a class that defined what “adulting” really means. There were never warning signs stamped on the back of our birth certificates, high school or college diplomas saying, “WARNING: Proceed with Caution“. We are launched into the real world, expecting our new-found independence to bring us all of the things we hoped for and dreamed of as kids; friends, family, car, home, maybe even a dog (or cat). Needless to say, when our expectations fall short, we feel defeated. Most of us can manage to pick up the pieces of our broken hearts & spirits and keep on moving forward, but sometimes we can’t.
Society tells us to fake it ’til we make it. To “keep that smile on your face” and “cheer up, buttercup”. Don’t get me wrong, those things are all true, and they do have a time and a place… but what about there rest of the time? Well, I’m here to tell you that being lost in life is normal. Growing up is not easy, and just like a snowflake, no two experiences are the same. Sometimes our dreams end up changing… that’s okay. Sometimes we turn right and we should have turned left (Google Maps where you at?)… but that’s okay! Sometimes we simply just aren’t where we want to be… & that is oh-kay!
Being okay with not being okay is probably one of the toughest pills I’ve had to swallow in my adult life. BUT, I want to say this, you are not the only one. We are all in this together, girl! The beauty of life is that we get to grow and change (and then grow some more). Sometimes the only way we grow is by taking the struggle bus straight through the valleys of life, but I promise… when you get to the top of the mountain, the view is great!
There is a time and place to feel sad something didn’t work out, or frustrated at yourself for not living up to an expectation. You are allowed to cry, to scream, to feel helpless…but there is also a time to count all the blessings you have too. You are alive, you are breathing, that alone should bring us some sort of peace. Whatever else happens, you CAN get through it!
The real take home here is, there is no “right” way to do life. You don’t have to have it all figured it out & you might never figure it out… and that is life. I’m not going to tell you to put a smile on your face or even to “cheer up, buttercup”, but please don’t give up. You have this one life, enjoy every second of it. Even the lows.
With love & coffee,
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